What should i do? Follow my heart or my parents? please help..10 points for best helpful answer.?
Im 19 to begin with and i still live with my parents. Im from india living in uk and as you can imagine that my parents are very strict! I have already waisted 3 years of my time listening to them and i really regreat it today. I have been doing nursing course for them because it looks good and has good money but i have no intreast in this job at all!! I would like to become a graphic designer because i have good skills on visualisation and art but they think this is just a hobby and will not get me nywhere in future. They just dont seem to understand what i want in my life..and it really hurts me. But they always expect too much from me like get qualification degree for nursing etc and do the job and live life happily ever after. ..Im not perfect and i have my own life to live not theires..even my teacher is saying that im not doing well in the course and i dont have the motivation to do it. Its true i dont.. Im just very sick and sad...i feel like im still a child even though im 19, they dont give me my sense of independence and choice..Im not even allowed to have social life/go out late night or have a boyfriend? Its almost like living in a prison..i wish someone could just take me away and show me the meaning of life. I had been staying up the whole night yesterday till 3am..thinking about my life and what i want and i have finally made a decision to do art and follow this route because i cant do nursing job for money if i dont enjoy it from the heart. Now the problem is that when they find this out, they are gonna blow up and there is gonna be tantrums and hassels.. i know that graphic designing job is really complicated and competitive but i know if i work hard i can do it. So i believe in myself ..why cant they? what should i do? do a job that i hate to but has good money or follow my passion and do a job that il enjoy. thanks sorry it was bit long..please give me good answers.
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You have to live your own life. It's great to respect the traditions and values of you parents and your culture. But if you don't follow your own path, it will be more difficult to be happy with your life.
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follow your passion what makes it difficult is you live at home and who is paying for college well good luck
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You need to ask yourself if you want to be happy or just go through life trying to get through one day at a time? Life can be very long if you choose to go through it this way. If it was me I would follow my heart. If you have the courage, passion and desire to succeed at what you really want to do in life then go for it!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Emily, There are times it's difficult to see the "Down the road" value of things .. I can tell you your parents are trying the best way they know to prepare you for a changing world ... the nursing career path is one where you can always have work .... But I see it's not your passion. You have to temper what your heart wants with what will pay the bills and feed you. Choose a path that you can live with ... at least study for both your dream and a practical skill ..... Perhaps where you are your heart chosen path may be hiring .... Here graphic designers are a dime a dozen .. and the field is hard to break into..... Where Nursing is always hiring. What ever you choose ... do it for you. Your parents will still love you, they may get frustrated for a bit, but life is like that ... Your becoming and adult ... not just a bigger child. Best wishes & good luck.
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If I had already invested 3 yrs. in the nursing program, I would finish it. You should be about finished right? All I can say is that I had a friend who started in nursing, and she too quit to follow her passion( cosmetology). She has commented frequently that she wished she had followed through. It is difficult for her to make ends meet sometimes now that she is married, and has children. You're young enough to learn more than one skill if that's what you decide you want to do. You will understand your parent's decision a little later on. This would be a secure,well paying skill to have under your belt. 90% of people don't like their jobs.That's why we call it work.
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Wow you sound just like me 5 years ago my parents were so stricked and tried to run my life my father is a minister and wanted me to follow in his footsteps even though I wanted to study and work with animals I finally stood my ground and even though they flipped out I felt soo good!. I am so happy now. You have to do what you love or you will hate your life. It is YOUR life not there'ss. I hope everything works out for you!
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It is time to sit down with your parents and have a heart to heart discussion with them. Let them know that you are highly respectful of them.,but you are wanting to make some of your life choices on your own. Be very honest,tell them you are not interested in being a nurse. Tell them you want to be a graphic designer,and explain to them your interest in that career area. However,do not shut them out. Listen vet carefully,and very closely to them when they explain why the would like to see you enter the nursing as a career. Do not get angry and do not raise your voice to them,even if they say things that you do not like. Explain back to them in a calm polite manner that you want to be a graphic designer and that you respectfully ask for their respect and support in return. Good luck to you and i wish you the best . Walter C.
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follow your heart as you will not be happy in a job you don't want to do and you might end up making accidental mistakes
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If you already have a lot of time invested in your nursing program (and are close to graduating) I would go ahead and finish that up before moving on to another degree like graphic design. Think of it this way, if you decide to finish up the nursing, you'll have a good paying job while you go to school. However, I know from experience that being somewhere you don't want to be is extremely depressing. I too followed my parents dream and six months into it was depressed. I've since followed my dream of being a photographer and now attend a small art school.
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